Just Show Up The Dance of Walking Through Suffering Together by Kara Tippetts and Jill Lynn Buteyn
I have nothing but praise for this book. I had not heard of this book before but I was sent a copy to review. This book is told from the perspective of Kara, a young wife and mother who has terminal cancer, and Jill, her friend who tells us her insights into what it is to just show up, or to be there when loved ones are going through “the hard”, which are the tough times none of us ask for or want but few of us never have to deal with. Jill, like so many of us, struggles with not knowing what to do or say for her friend as she walks through the hard, but she knows that she needs to see her friend through to the end. Her resolve, and the resolve of many other friends, gives support and peace to the family as they deal with cancer, family, funeral plans, hospice, and the very painful reality that Kara is not going to make it. The friends come together in a beautiful way to honor their friend by sharing her children as co-parents and promising to go from that day forward making sure that the children always feel loved and cared for. Kara tells us from her perspective how it feels to take a back seat to someone else when your child needs you, to not have enough energy to keep awake to finish a task, and to know that you are going to miss out on all of those milestones that are so dear to us all.
This book really resonated with me. Part of it could be that my husband has metastasized cancer and we’ve been walking that journey for 5 years now. But I felt nothing but admiration for those friends who so lovingly gave of themselves to comfort and support that family. This is a wonderful book for anyone, a cancer patient, a friend or relative, even folks who just want to know how to be supportive in the best way possible when someone is suffering for any reason. It gives very concrete ideas for how to deal with pain and painful subjects. I would rate this a 5 and then some!